• Scott McClure

Triggers, Relapse and Relationships: What is the Connection?

You may have been through an in-house rehabilitation program. Maybe you detoxified and have begun living sober with the support of a therapist or mental health professional. In either scenario, chances are you received certain guidelines with regard to how to continue living sober.

Many people who have recently rid themselves of an addiction are discouraged from making significant alterations to their lives. Among the life changes that are discouraged, relationships are definitely up there.

Relationships and Sobriety

This is to say that those currently in relationships are advised to remain in them regardless of how they may feel unless the relationship in question is abusive or enabling of one’s addiction. Those not in relationships are advised to stay single until a time that they feel more grounded and stable in their sobriety.

Why Is This So?

According to one article published by psychology today, there are a number of reasons why people are discouraged from entering new relationships when starting to live sober. These are some of the risks and hazards of entering new relationships at this stage include:

· Seeking relationships in familiar settings with familiar people (I.e. circles that support addiction)

· Going back to an abusive lover or partner you may have distanced yourself from because the relationship and your addiction are correlated.

· Switching the primary addiction you suffer from substance to sex and romance.

For the reasons stated above as well as certain others, people recovering from addiction are discouraged from entering new relationships.

What About People already In Relationships?

If you’re already in a relationship that is not particularly abusive or does not involve addiction, the best way forward is usually to stay in it. That being said, even the best of relationships can cause stress and bring up things that in the past might have led you to use. This is not to say that your partner does not mean well, rather, we’re saying your change is something both of you might have to work with in a sense.

If you’re already in a relationship, if you’re with a long-term partner or married with kids, you might just need a little space to ground yourself. If this is so and you do not wish to burden your relationship too much with your process, there are ways you could go about it.

How a Sober Living Home May Help

If you’ve recently cleaned up and feel that the home environment may have more triggers than you can navigate you can always join a sober living home. Even if you feel your partner and you are in a good place but you just want to do a little bit of work on yourself before getting back to your life, sober living facilities for men can be quite helpful.

Sober living facilities like the one we run in Wabash County right by Houston, TX, offer you an environment with everything you need to help further your process. They also do away with any distractions that may risk your sobriety or result in regression.

Think of it as a safe space where you can pull back and return better than you were to begin with.

In Conclusion

It’s not that you’re doomed to be alone just because you’re recovering from addiction. You just need a little more time to ground yourself and that’s alright.

Just remember – slow and steady wins the race!




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